Happiness

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Atheist Alain de Botton’s Remarkably Christian (Although Too Pessimistic) Advice About Marriage

“The good news is that it doesn’t matter if we find we have married the wrong person… We need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them… Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the true marker of the 'not overly wrong' person. Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition." [Read Article]

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Why Being Too Self-Conscious Will Make You Less Happy

"In study after study, experimental subjects thought that other people would notice them much more than they actually did... This [is] the 'spotlight effect.' We are naturally conscious of ourselves, what we are thinking, how we look, and what we are doing. As David Foster Wallace put it, 'There is no experience you’ve had that you were not at the absolute center of.' And so it’s hard to block the inference that others share this focus. But research finds that they don’t..." [Read Article]
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New Health Study Is Good News for the Grumpy

“'Happiness and related measures of well-being do not appear to have any direct effect on mortality,' the researchers concluded... [They] decided to look into the subject because there is a widespread belief that stress and unhappiness cause disease. Such beliefs can fuel a tendency to blame the sick for bringing ailments on themselves by being negative, and to warn the well to cheer up or else..." [Read Article]
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Happiness Is Not a Solo Enterprise

"It has become increasingly apparent to me that happiness comes from 'with' as much as it comes from 'within.' ...Cultivating connections is life-enhancing and helps buffer against stress. Building a strong connection to a social group has been shown to help people with depression recover and prevent relapse. The benefits of social activity for the elderly abound as well... Resilience does not come from willpower or grit; it comes from relationships and hope. [Read Article]
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Whatever Happened to Melancholy?

"Everywhere you look these days you see something on how to be happy — how to manifest abundance, desires and success, find your bliss... Whatever happened to experiencing the grace of melancholy, which requires reflection: a sort of mental steeping, like tea? What if all this cheerful advice only makes you feel inadequate? What if you were born morose?" [Read Article]
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Here’s Why Too Much Choice Stresses Us Out

"The standard line is that choice is good for us, that it confers on us freedom, personal responsibility, self-determination, autonomy and lots of other things...  [but] we end up less satisfied with the result of the choice than we would be if we had fewer options to choose from. When there are lots of alternatives to consider, it is easy to imagine the attractive features of alternatives that you reject that make you less satisfied with the alternative that you’ve chosen..." [Read Article]