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The Science of Generosity

"Perhaps the strongest message from the science of generosity is that the more adversity someone has experienced, the more compassion she feels and the more generous she’s likely to be. I’m reminded of this every time I see someone who looks destitute drop a few coins into a panhandler’s cup while expensively dressed commuters rush past... Someone who knows what it is to suffer also knows how outside forces can land one in deep poverty through little fault of one’s own, and how wonderful it can be to have a dollar for a McDonald’s coffee." [Read Article]
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Getting Empathy Right

"Empathy is commonly understood to mean, ‘I know exactly how you feel because I have felt the same way myself.’ ...In reality, empathy is actually - projective self involvement. This is ultimately a form of narcissism that passes as caring. The real caring item is best described as ‘Responsiveness’... a process of  emotional receptivity, by which one is directly tuned into and involved with the other person with no reference to oneself at all.... This capacity and its origins all come from maternal love. The mother responds directly to her baby’s needs without any reference to herself... This is the source of all love. [Read Article]