It's because of "the huge gulf between grasping something intellectually and really feeling it in your bones. For example, it was years ago that I first encountered the insight that anxiety and insecurity aren’t reduced by trying to exert more control over the world; in fact, that usually makes them worse. I know this. But apparently I have to keep learning it, over and over. Its sheer correctness isn’t sufficient for it to burrow lastingly into my brain; that takes repeated experience." [Read Article]
"Healthy selfishness not only reminds us to take care of ourselves; it makes it possible for us to take care of others. Even selfless caring and generosity is not really selfless. If it makes you feel good to do something for someone else, then it’s still somewhat selfish, isn’t it? But that doesn’t make it bad." [Read Article]
"If what you’re angry about can be fixed, then fix it; if it cannot, then don’t waste energy on it. Ever the idealist, Plato exorcises the morality from anger, and reframes it as ineffectual problem-solving." [Read Article]
What do the experience of beauty and positive mental health have in common? Everything! Whether found in nature, art or people, the ability to experience beauty provides significant therapeutic qualities. In this seminar based on doctoral-level research, Dr. Margaret Laracy discusses how attentiveness to beauty can benefit both the client and the therapist in a variety of ways.
"Ever since I was little, I’ve been concerned about what others think of me. Of course, everyone has some people-pleasing tendencies—who doesn’t want people to like them or make their parents proud? But for me, and for many women I know, the feeling of needing approval and not wanting to say no is pervasive—and makes us into borderline doormats." [Read Article]
"...awe imbues people with a different sense of themselves, one that is smaller, more humble and part of something larger. Our research finds that even brief experiences of awe, such as being amid beautiful tall trees, lead people to feel less narcissistic and entitled and more attuned to the common humanity people share with one another." [Read Article]