Marriage & Family

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8 Ways Parental Love Can Fail

"Recent research in the neurosciences has shown that the way parents interact (or fail to interact) with children becomes hardwired in their children’s brains, often before they are capable of formulating words to describe what they are experiencing... Almost all parents feel that they love their children. But what parents feel internally must have an external component in actions that are loving in order to have a positive effect on their children." [Read Article]
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5 Ways the Church Can Strengthen Marriages

"The average marriage that ends in divorce does so after just eight years, which suggests that the first years are the hardest... The Church should build... support into a marriage plan, either by requiring enrollment in post-wedding marriage enrichment classes prior to the ceremony, or by requiring priests to follow-up personally with couples they have married on a scheduled basis for the first months or years of marriage." [Read Article]
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6 Keys to Keeping a Marriage Alive in Terrible Times

"It had only been a few months since our son died, and I was depressed and desperately missing him... Eventually, every marriage is tested to some degree. Maybe through financial troubles, infidelity, loss of a job, a spouse who is checked out, emotional issues due to childhood trauma or health problems... We certainly don't have it all figured out, and we struggle just like everyone else. But here are a few things we’ve learned about maintaining our marriage through this terrible time..." [Read Article]
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Why Affairs Aren’t Necessarily About Sex

"When partners take each other for granted and neglect their relationship, they put their partnership in jeopardy. When unresolved conflicts mount up, resentment, anger, a lack of respect, even contempt may form conditions that are an accident waiting to happen... No matter what their cause or nature, every betrayal does harm to a relationship and always requires repair work in order to restore trust and integrity to the relationship." [Read Article]
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5 Fighting Words That Damage Relationships

"Arguing is a part of every healthy relationship. You and your partner won't agree 100 percent of the time, and sometimes one or both of you will say or do something that upsets the other. When this happens and you have a fair fight, you both voice your issues, listen to each other, talk, disagree, talk some more, and come away feeling closer... In my 35 years as a marriage and family therapist, there are certain fighting words and fighting phrases I see couples use repeatedly to get a rise out of each other—or to shut the other down. [Read Article]
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The Real Reason Parents Get Angry At Their Kids

"No child comes with a manual, and every child is unique. Feelings of inadequacy occur when we are jarred out of preconceived notions of what children need, what they should be like, or how they ought to respond to us... Feelings of inadequacy force us to stop seeing the child as a source of emotion for us and, instead, allow the needs of the child to teach us to be good parents of that unique child. Anger occurs when we blame children for doing their part in the interaction..." [Read Article]
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What Each Person in a Relationship Needs to Feel Loved

"If there is one ingredient that determines whether or not a relationship will be successful, that ingredient is listening—the degree to which each partner feels listened to and truly known. Couples that can listen to each other in a satisfying way usually succeed, while those that can’t usually fail. Ultimately, we can only feel loved to the degree that we feel listened to." [Read Article]
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Why Ikea is a “Nightmare” for Relationships

"In an environment where choosing a coffee table is marketed as an expression of identity, it’s easy to project deeper meaning onto a partner’s opinion. If I like the Lack and you like the Klingsbo, do we want the same kind of home? Do we want the same kind of life? Who are you, really? 'Couples tend to extrapolate from the small conflicts that arise while shopping for and building furniture that perhaps they aren’t so made for one another after all...'" [Read Article]