Mind & Spirit

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What Each Person in a Relationship Needs to Feel Loved

"If there is one ingredient that determines whether or not a relationship will be successful, that ingredient is listening—the degree to which each partner feels listened to and truly known. Couples that can listen to each other in a satisfying way usually succeed, while those that can’t usually fail. Ultimately, we can only feel loved to the degree that we feel listened to." [Read Article]
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Why Ikea is a “Nightmare” for Relationships

"In an environment where choosing a coffee table is marketed as an expression of identity, it’s easy to project deeper meaning onto a partner’s opinion. If I like the Lack and you like the Klingsbo, do we want the same kind of home? Do we want the same kind of life? Who are you, really? 'Couples tend to extrapolate from the small conflicts that arise while shopping for and building furniture that perhaps they aren’t so made for one another after all...'" [Read Article]
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Liberty Students Survive Bernie Sanders Visit Without Psychological Trauma

"Liberty University must have been an incredibly unsafe place. Many, if not most, of its students deeply believe that abortion is murder. And here was a speaker who … was, from their point of view, in favor of mass murder. And yet they let him talk respectfully, they asked him questions, and it seemed like everyone was able to have a civil conversation..." [Read Article]
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Are You a Good or Bad Perfectionist? Take this Test and See.

"A body of research suggests a healthy way to be a perfectionist, that lets you reap the good associated with it — as in, chasing after the ridiculously high goals you’ve set for yourself — while neatly sidestepping the nasty self-loathing should you happen to miss your mark, and the anxiety that prevents you from ever embarking on those goals in the first place." [Read Article]
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God Knows, and Google Doesn’t: Lessons from the Ashley Madison Hack

"…We hide nothing from God. Ironically, the Internet, in becoming such a powerful force in our lives, illustrates this—albeit as a mere idol. But the avatar person constructed by the idol god is not, ultimately, our true self, the one knit together in a mother’s womb by a Creator God… Human beings are so much more screwed up, collectively speaking, than we care to admit. But we are also so much more beloved than we might dare to believe." [Read Article]
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Thinking About God Encourages Risk-Taking

"Thoughts of God encourage risk-taking—so long as the behavior in question doesn't involve breaking moral codes. Reminders of the almighty may make one hesitate to burglarize a home, but they can inspire one to experiment with an extreme sport... Most Americans receive countless daily reminders of a benevolent protector, and this research suggests that, for better or worse, these may inspire high-risk behavior." [Read Article]
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Why is it so hard to take your own advice?

It's because of "the huge gulf between grasping something intellectually and really feeling it in your bones. For example, it was years ago that I first encountered the insight that anxiety and insecurity aren’t reduced by trying to exert more control over the world; in fact, that usually makes them worse. I know this. But apparently I have to keep learning it, over and over. Its sheer correctness isn’t sufficient for it to burrow lastingly into my brain; that takes repeated experience." [Read Article]