Atheist Alain de Botton’s Remarkably Christian (Although Too Pessimistic) Advice About Marriage

“The good news is that it doesn’t matter if we find we have married the wrong person… We need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them… Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the true marker of the ‘not overly wrong’ person. Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition.” [Read Article]